At a recent party I had a discussion (actually the second) with a family friend, Mark about taking care of himself as he cares for his Mother Sue. I just do not understand why anyone thinks they can pick up another person safely.
Just because they have a brain, does not mean that they are ‘lighter’ than a 50# bag of dog food. What I mean is that because the person can ‘help’ they therefore weigh less. This works until one of us stumbles and the whole 110# lands on the caregiver.
Sue was in a wheelchair, and as they were leaving the party 2 grown men bounced her down a few steps; while one man made sure the wheelchair didn’t roll down the driveway, the other picked Sue up and plopped her into their car. Picture this in the dark and under raining skies… comical or tragic. This time nothing went wrong “comical”.
We have heard so many stories where tragedy struck sending the caregiver to the hospital leaving no one to care for the patient. Even with our stories, Mark feels resistant to getting equipment (like a simple ramp) that would make Mark’s life easier and safer. We have dubbed this “Resistance to Assistance”.
I just don’t get it.